Lionel's Love story..... last part.

Becoming the Hero, waiting for the Princess (Part 3)

By the grace of God Xiangru and I started to talk again on MSN, on extraordinary circumstances which led to us finding that we were still very much attracted to each other. One thing led to the next and we were officially attached on 8/4/2007.

This date was special to me for a few reasons:
1. It was Resurrection Sunday. I remember at Ps Roland’s house when he announced that we are official and I was made aware of this date, God said:’ I am resurrecting this part of your life because you gave up your life to me for the past 2 years.’ Tears swelled up in my eyes as I heard it and I could feel God’s love fill my heart.

2. It was Ignez’s birthday!! When Ps Eve was still pregnant with Ignez, I had wanted to ask if I could be the God-father. But when I heard that Xiangru was the God-mother, I thought that it would be better that I dun mention it to not complicate things. Now I will be Ignez’s god-father even without me asking!! God is GOOD!! :)

God showed me two things to show me that she was the one:
1. The thing that irritated me about her the most was her pride. She ALWAYS thinks that she is right. Talking to her feels as if you are being talked down to by a teacher. But what God showed me was that she had learnt of her own weaknesses and that she is not in total control. That she knows that God is the one who is control and she is just a guide to her girls.

2. This might sound a bit funny. Because of her strong character, I had always feared that she would have problems submitting to me as a wife. This feeling was made even stronger by the fact that she was YN144 while I was YN1728… like lower in rank! Haha! So when the news of Ps Danny being seeded up into Ps Eugene’s 12, my first thoughts was not about being in the 144. As a matter of fact, I was telling God: “You must be kidding!!” and I was preoccupied with what that meant with regard to us.

After we got together, Xiangru disclosed that what kept her interested and attracted was how I handled myself 2 years ago when faced with my mistakes. I faced them, admitted that I was wrong and was ready to face any consequences. She also saw how I grew in the 2 years and worked at my weaknesses. In seeing all of that she respected me for them. What kept me interested and attracted was how she allowed her pride to die and understood more of God’s grace.

Even now, we are seeing how God is molding us to be perfect for each other. If you know us, you will know that we are two very different people with conflicting personalities. But God is showing us how that difference is being used by Him to complement each of us. An example is how she is so detailed and meticulous in her work while I am so big picture and free spirited. Combined we become a dynamic duo! She has also become gentler, which can be testified by all her friends around her, in the near 19 months that we have been together. :)

Let me end my sharing with this: we have always been taught that in praying for the right partner, one of the things we can do is to list down 5 non-negotiable and 5 negotiable criteria that we want. The common thought or practice is that it will never happen and that we would ‘downgrade’ our requirements so that there is higher chance of use finding the right one. Especially as we grow older, we start to fear that we will never find the right one. I want to testify that at age 31, 3 Oct 2009, I will be marrying my rib, helper, soul mate and best friend who fits ALL of the 10 criteria that I listed down. Want to know what the 10 criteria are?? Maybe next time I will tell you. :)

Now she seem more and more beautiful with each passing day and I can tell from the way she looks at me (and by her telling me) of how she looks up to me for the things I do and believe in. You can say that finally, after 2 years, that I have become her Hero and she has become my Princess.